I'm OK. I've rested quite a bit today. Here are partial answers. You are challenging me with this diode check thing, but I looked it up on the internet, and think I understand. I do have a diode check setting on my meter, so you want me to put the meter on that setting and then check two different points on the same wire. Then put it on the 200 ohm setting and do the same thing. If that is accurate, I can do that.
Now for your other question. Here is what happened when the problem began which was essentially all my fault. I was moving the refrigerator over a little. It was plugged in. It has a very long cord. In the process the cord got snagged on something, but instead of coming unplugged from the outlet, the wires pulled out of the back of the refrigerator cabinet. There was an electrical flash, and a circuit blew in my house. I reset the circuit breaker, realized the wires from the refrigerator were broken loose, but the cord was still plugged in. I unplugged the cord. I went back to the refrigerator and found these pieces still attached to the posts in the relay.

They had been part of the white and the red cabinet wires (if I am remembering correctly). The black wire from the refrigerator compartment stayed attached to the common post with the compressor wire. I assumed the flash and the blowing of the circuit were doing to the wires from the cord touching each other when the broke lose from the refrigerator. This is when I did my next stupid thing. Since I had called an electrician, I was trying to prepare the refrigerator for them to work with by starting with a clean slate. I took those broken pieces of wire with the ring terminals off, so they could start with fresh wiring. That left both the white wire and the red wire hanging lose inside the cabinet. While the electricians were staring at the refrigerator, I was on the computer trying to find something helpful on the internet since they didn't know what to do. When they left I noticed that they had attached the red wire to the metal plate in the relay. That just left the white wire with the ring terminal hanging free.